First I want to apologize for not having written i a while. But inbetween school, temple trips and weddings I haven't had a lot of time the last couple of weeks. But I will try to write at least three times a week now.
Today I want to write about a song from Incubus. It's called Earth to Bella.
Incubus - Earth to Bella
http://open.spotify.com/track/4y4hP02p0od6OT8AGVvnvX
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AK5kk0MB_ZI
The sentence in this song that really grabbed my attention was: "And before you swim you've gotta be okay to sink".
I feel that this is a fact of life. In order to learn and grow you have to be aware that there is a risk that you might sink, and you have to be willing to take that risk.
It's the same for all new talents either you are learning to ride a bike, play football, play the guitar or any other talent you have to be ready to fail and to fall to be able to succeed.
Let's use the example of learning how to swim. It's preatty dangerous. How do you learn to swim? There is really only one way, you have to jump in the water, flap your arms and push your legs and hope for the best. And either you are a quick learner or you sink. And most people do sink the first time. And what have we accomplished then? Well now we know one way of not swimming.
Thomas Edison who discovered how to use electricity for lighting had some interesting qoutes:
He said, after having failed in making a working light bulb again, "We now know a thousand ways not to build a light bulb".
Later he said “I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 ways that don't work”.
He also said “I never failed once. It just happened to be a 2000-step process.”
About the human nature he commented that “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
On another site I read said that failure is a detour, not a dead end street", just go back and try again.
Don't be afraid to sink, fall or fail, because after a 1000 times you will get it right. You are not a failure because you fail once, just continue until you succed. Thomas Alva Edison is remembered as our times greatest inventor because he failed 10 000 times and succeeded once. Perfection is achieved in the end, it's just a long and rough process, like Edison it might be a 2000-step process.
In order to learn in this life you must sink, and you will learn many ways not to swim, but in the end you will swim.
Another good song in this topic is Onerepublic with all fall down.
OneRepublic - All fall down
http://open.spotify.com/track/7E8KvZOi2YLQmpAW88DKZ7
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dm814YsrJ6A
- VforVegard
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Thursday, October 7, 2010
More than useless
There are times when people around us feel like crap; they feel down, insignificant and hurt. In this time your words of kindness can be a help in a tiresome and dark everyday life.
Relient K - More than useless
http://open.spotify.com/track/3tdqxPtYmf3LqsjQC8KS72
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLkMA3wn70Q
Like in this songs there are days when we can feel like there is no purpose to our existence, you might feel unwanted, feel like you have dissapointed someone or will fail someone, and you wonder if you are any good at all?
In these times think of the great value a word of kindness, of encouragement or of praise can have for this individual. A single word can make a person feel loved instead of feeling worthless. aHve you ever thought about what a great influence you can be for people if you encourage and express love? Have you ever thought about how great things people can achive if you believe in them?
Like Relient K lets us know, it is great to have a person that thinks you are "less than useless".
Your words are more than just words, they offer meaning and express feelings, You words can express feelings of gratitude, encouragement and love. To uplift, encourage, help and motivate. Sometimes your words don't do anything and some times you use them to discourage. Let's use our voice and our words to uplift and motivate those around us. The people around you are actually affected by what you say. They look up to you and belive your words to be true.
In the past few weeks I have been taught the meaning of having goo friends. Friends that encourage, that uplift and makes my days better. They endure my sadness, they tolerate my bad mood and they carry my sorrow. And at the same time they encourage me, they help me be active and they use of their time to make me feel better, to tell me that I'm good and that I will be ok.
So when people around you think that they cannot do something, you have to promise them that they will get through it and that they will do something right and that they are worth something. And don't just do it now, make it a part of you. Look around you and use your time and words to save people from themselves and assure them that they are more than useless. Like my friends helped me feel that I am more than useless.
- VforVegard
Relient K - More than useless
http://open.spotify.com/track/3tdqxPtYmf3LqsjQC8KS72
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLkMA3wn70Q
Like in this songs there are days when we can feel like there is no purpose to our existence, you might feel unwanted, feel like you have dissapointed someone or will fail someone, and you wonder if you are any good at all?
In these times think of the great value a word of kindness, of encouragement or of praise can have for this individual. A single word can make a person feel loved instead of feeling worthless. aHve you ever thought about what a great influence you can be for people if you encourage and express love? Have you ever thought about how great things people can achive if you believe in them?
Like Relient K lets us know, it is great to have a person that thinks you are "less than useless".
Your words are more than just words, they offer meaning and express feelings, You words can express feelings of gratitude, encouragement and love. To uplift, encourage, help and motivate. Sometimes your words don't do anything and some times you use them to discourage. Let's use our voice and our words to uplift and motivate those around us. The people around you are actually affected by what you say. They look up to you and belive your words to be true.
In the past few weeks I have been taught the meaning of having goo friends. Friends that encourage, that uplift and makes my days better. They endure my sadness, they tolerate my bad mood and they carry my sorrow. And at the same time they encourage me, they help me be active and they use of their time to make me feel better, to tell me that I'm good and that I will be ok.
So when people around you think that they cannot do something, you have to promise them that they will get through it and that they will do something right and that they are worth something. And don't just do it now, make it a part of you. Look around you and use your time and words to save people from themselves and assure them that they are more than useless. Like my friends helped me feel that I am more than useless.
- VforVegard
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Painted youself into a corner? Are you going to choose the easy or hard way out?
This weekend was something we call General Conference in the church, its a satelite transmitted meeting worldwide that lets all of all leaders talk to the entire world at once. You can read more about it at http://www.lds.org/ and http://www.mormon.org/. Today I want to give you some impressions I had from a talk from meeting. And these songs might give you an idea of what the talk was about. I will especially encourage you to listen to the first song and read the lyrics.
Relient K - When I go down - Lyrics (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/relientk/whenigodown.html)
http://open.spotify.com/track/0UnmayheSTYN52BlZij5Qc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDskMF54vnw
Incubus - Dig
http://open.spotify.com/track/5Ewxkv3FsTwxJUDbOPAOwL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMsZ6wkZWhA&ob=av2e
Incubus - Love hurts
http://open.spotify.com/track/2kMdKdVh0t03HBuRcstafT
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zxPcmi1U25g
Incubus - Diamonds and coal
http://open.spotify.com/track/43utXSeYkkua81p25Z2TFw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3m3kvTE7XKI
Snow Patrol - Run
http://open.spotify.com/track/19EmyfsVBD9YnLrxPPrDaH
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOBs8dU4Pb8&ob=av2n
But at this conference there was a talk that impressed me. In this talk the person gave an example of a man painting the floor of a room and he had the bright idea of starting from the door and then painted himself into a corner. A well know mistake for most of us. But his point was that when you are in this corner that you have painted youself into there is no window and no door and it seems like there is no way out of there, well there still is a way. But it will be a painfull and you will have to repair the damage. The solution is to walk over the floor, ruining some of the floor you have already painted and then fixing it again afterwards. It will hurt your pride, it will hurt the floor and it will demand some work.
How many of us would like to just paint ourselfs a window to escape out of when we have painted ourselfs into the corner? Why are we looking for the easy way out? Looking for the quick fix and running away from the difficult path of redemption. What happens if we do this?
In stead of going through the hard way, that might seem overwhelming we choose the easy way, because we think that we can escape our problems by not facing them. We think that if you don't have to face them we don't have to face the though and hard feelings that come with facing them. We thikn that if we run it won't catch up with us and we can continue living like nothing happened. But what are the consequenses of running?
We also let go of a wonderful opportunity of learning. We might leave someone hurt behind and do not heal their or our wounds. And you leave the past to haunt you. Like a bad consience that never will let you feel comfortable with yourself again.
What if you choose the hard way? What if you take the pain and face the hurt, problems and troubles that you have caused? Like diamonds and coal we need to be refined and it burs. But when you do this you say yes to the opportunity to learn from your mistakes. You are proving that you are not the proud one that declines help and refuses to see that, like everyone else I also have flaws. And that makes you kind, merciful and human. And you accept that each situation has something to teach you about life.
A part of the hard path is doing good what you did wrong. This will help you get closure. Either if it was towards yourself or towards others. You must forgive yourself or others, or apologize to yourself or others. And the ghost of your past will not haunt you. But leave you with a feeling of peace, calm and you will have become wiser.
So whenever you think about taking the easy way out, think about what the consequences of that choice is. Do you want hurt feelings and your conscious to haunt you. Or do you accept that every hard path is a way to learn and get closure in your life. Healing yourself and the people around you. Don't run, but face the opportunity in front of you. You problems do not go away simply if they are ignored. (Relient K)
- VforVegard
Relient K - When I go down - Lyrics (http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/relientk/whenigodown.html)
http://open.spotify.com/track/0UnmayheSTYN52BlZij5Qc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDskMF54vnw
Incubus - Dig
http://open.spotify.com/track/5Ewxkv3FsTwxJUDbOPAOwL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMsZ6wkZWhA&ob=av2e
Incubus - Love hurts
http://open.spotify.com/track/2kMdKdVh0t03HBuRcstafT
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zxPcmi1U25g
Incubus - Diamonds and coal
http://open.spotify.com/track/43utXSeYkkua81p25Z2TFw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3m3kvTE7XKI
Snow Patrol - Run
http://open.spotify.com/track/19EmyfsVBD9YnLrxPPrDaH
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOBs8dU4Pb8&ob=av2n
But at this conference there was a talk that impressed me. In this talk the person gave an example of a man painting the floor of a room and he had the bright idea of starting from the door and then painted himself into a corner. A well know mistake for most of us. But his point was that when you are in this corner that you have painted youself into there is no window and no door and it seems like there is no way out of there, well there still is a way. But it will be a painfull and you will have to repair the damage. The solution is to walk over the floor, ruining some of the floor you have already painted and then fixing it again afterwards. It will hurt your pride, it will hurt the floor and it will demand some work.
How many of us would like to just paint ourselfs a window to escape out of when we have painted ourselfs into the corner? Why are we looking for the easy way out? Looking for the quick fix and running away from the difficult path of redemption. What happens if we do this?
In stead of going through the hard way, that might seem overwhelming we choose the easy way, because we think that we can escape our problems by not facing them. We think that if you don't have to face them we don't have to face the though and hard feelings that come with facing them. We thikn that if we run it won't catch up with us and we can continue living like nothing happened. But what are the consequenses of running?
We also let go of a wonderful opportunity of learning. We might leave someone hurt behind and do not heal their or our wounds. And you leave the past to haunt you. Like a bad consience that never will let you feel comfortable with yourself again.
What if you choose the hard way? What if you take the pain and face the hurt, problems and troubles that you have caused? Like diamonds and coal we need to be refined and it burs. But when you do this you say yes to the opportunity to learn from your mistakes. You are proving that you are not the proud one that declines help and refuses to see that, like everyone else I also have flaws. And that makes you kind, merciful and human. And you accept that each situation has something to teach you about life.
A part of the hard path is doing good what you did wrong. This will help you get closure. Either if it was towards yourself or towards others. You must forgive yourself or others, or apologize to yourself or others. And the ghost of your past will not haunt you. But leave you with a feeling of peace, calm and you will have become wiser.
So whenever you think about taking the easy way out, think about what the consequences of that choice is. Do you want hurt feelings and your conscious to haunt you. Or do you accept that every hard path is a way to learn and get closure in your life. Healing yourself and the people around you. Don't run, but face the opportunity in front of you. You problems do not go away simply if they are ignored. (Relient K)
- VforVegard
Saturday, October 2, 2010
I wish I could save you
Have you met people that have something that is pushing them down, holding them back or hindering them from living their lives to their full potential? It could be someone in the family, a friend, a boy or girlfriend, wife or husband or someone else close to you that has self-esteem issues, a bad habit, an addtiction or an attitude that makes life harder for them. And you know that if they would change thay would be happier, they would have more joy in life and be more pleased with themselves, and you just think "I wish I could save you".
Simple Plan - Save you
http://open.spotify.com/track/7mGk4gOciSMNc4W1S5W5dy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScfQDcFYUvQ&ob=av2e
(Watch the Youtube video, it's really good)
The lyrics from this song really states what I feel also when I face a person that I really want to help, but can't seem to be able to help. They say "You'll never know the way it tears me up inside to see you". And it really does, you do care and maybe even love the person that is hurting and it hurts you to see this person this way. You are trying to help them to bug, hurt or make this person unhappy. It's the totally opposite of course. You want this person to be happy. It's the process of change that hurts, and I'm sorry for that, but it's better that you go through hurt now so that you can be happy for the rest of your life.
Sometimes I feel so helpless facing these people and unmotivated because it seems like, as they say in the song, "And no matter what I do I can't make you feel better". And sometimes this is the case. Either you can't know what this other person is feeling and the sympathy that you are trying to express is no more than a feeling of "i'm sorry that you are hurting, but i've never been in this situation and I don't know how much you are hurting and I don't know how to get you out of this". And words are always more comforting when they come from a person that has had the same experience than from someone that doesn't have a clue.
And then you say that "I wish that I could tell you something, to take it all away". But there probably isn't. What could that be if i've never been there before? How could I help you? And then you think "If only I could find the answer, to take it all away".
But what can you do in this situation? My feelings are the same as in the lyrics
"I wont give up till it's over
If it takes you forever I want you to know
That if you fall, stumble down
I'll pick you up off the ground
If you lose faith in you
I'll give you strength to pull through
Tell me you won't give up cause I'll be waiting if you fall
Oh you know I'll be there for you"
If there is nothing I can do for you to feel better, at least I want you to know if there is something I can do for you, I will be there beside you, i will be ready to do what you want me to do, I will at least be there to catch you before you fall and pick you up through the strenght that I have in me. Because I do care and love you.
I just don't know how to, but I wish I could save you.
- VforVegard
Simple Plan - Save you
http://open.spotify.com/track/7mGk4gOciSMNc4W1S5W5dy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScfQDcFYUvQ&ob=av2e
(Watch the Youtube video, it's really good)
The lyrics from this song really states what I feel also when I face a person that I really want to help, but can't seem to be able to help. They say "You'll never know the way it tears me up inside to see you". And it really does, you do care and maybe even love the person that is hurting and it hurts you to see this person this way. You are trying to help them to bug, hurt or make this person unhappy. It's the totally opposite of course. You want this person to be happy. It's the process of change that hurts, and I'm sorry for that, but it's better that you go through hurt now so that you can be happy for the rest of your life.
Sometimes I feel so helpless facing these people and unmotivated because it seems like, as they say in the song, "And no matter what I do I can't make you feel better". And sometimes this is the case. Either you can't know what this other person is feeling and the sympathy that you are trying to express is no more than a feeling of "i'm sorry that you are hurting, but i've never been in this situation and I don't know how much you are hurting and I don't know how to get you out of this". And words are always more comforting when they come from a person that has had the same experience than from someone that doesn't have a clue.
And then you say that "I wish that I could tell you something, to take it all away". But there probably isn't. What could that be if i've never been there before? How could I help you? And then you think "If only I could find the answer, to take it all away".
But what can you do in this situation? My feelings are the same as in the lyrics
"I wont give up till it's over
If it takes you forever I want you to know
That if you fall, stumble down
I'll pick you up off the ground
If you lose faith in you
I'll give you strength to pull through
Tell me you won't give up cause I'll be waiting if you fall
Oh you know I'll be there for you"
If there is nothing I can do for you to feel better, at least I want you to know if there is something I can do for you, I will be there beside you, i will be ready to do what you want me to do, I will at least be there to catch you before you fall and pick you up through the strenght that I have in me. Because I do care and love you.
I just don't know how to, but I wish I could save you.
- VforVegard
Friday, October 1, 2010
It is a good life, risk your happiness
Yesterday I was walking home from the train station after school and I was listening to a song by OneRepublic, it's called "Good Life".
OneRepublic - Good life
http://open.spotify.com/track/2Iohf7kY7KNhHlK2JjI3g1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvypiDWsaF8&feature=related
Despite that there are downs in life and that we encounter difficulties. Life in general is good. After feeeling down, you will be uplifted, and after the rain the sun wil shine again and after the night the morning will come.
What makes life so great? In my life it is the people around me. My family and friends. Because in good times they are there to make me laugh and in bad times they are there to comfort me. So even in bad times, people make life good.
I also enjoy life because of what it gives to me personally. It gives me a opportunity to be myself, to be more and to develop, and if we take these opportunities and makes something with the time we have been given here, you will enjoy this life.
I'm wondering, what would life be if there were no downs? Would I be happy? Could I know the difference between happiness and sadness? Would I know how to laugh, to feel empathy for other, or to make other happy when they were down? Would relationships really mean anything if there weren't ups and downs? Would people matter if you really didn't make an impact at all? I need to feel sad to feel happy. That is my conclusion and sadness is actually one of the things that makes this life worth living, because then I know what happiness feels like.
And I was thinking who has responsibility for it to be a good life? My friends? Are they supposed to make life livable for me, my family? Are everyone in this world just existing to make me happy? No. I have to make my life good. I have to act and bring happiness into my life. I have to risk being sad, in order to become happy. And if you do not risk creating that happiness for yourself, then you will be sad.
Reach out to someone today, someone you have wanted to talk to or to do something for or to get to know better. A friend you haven't talked to in a while, a girl or boy you like, but have been to scared to talk to or a person you know needs some encouragement. Risk to be happy.
Life does go up and down, but mostly it is a good life, risk your happiness.
- VforVegard
OneRepublic - Good life
http://open.spotify.com/track/2Iohf7kY7KNhHlK2JjI3g1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvypiDWsaF8&feature=related
Despite that there are downs in life and that we encounter difficulties. Life in general is good. After feeeling down, you will be uplifted, and after the rain the sun wil shine again and after the night the morning will come.
What makes life so great? In my life it is the people around me. My family and friends. Because in good times they are there to make me laugh and in bad times they are there to comfort me. So even in bad times, people make life good.
I also enjoy life because of what it gives to me personally. It gives me a opportunity to be myself, to be more and to develop, and if we take these opportunities and makes something with the time we have been given here, you will enjoy this life.
I'm wondering, what would life be if there were no downs? Would I be happy? Could I know the difference between happiness and sadness? Would I know how to laugh, to feel empathy for other, or to make other happy when they were down? Would relationships really mean anything if there weren't ups and downs? Would people matter if you really didn't make an impact at all? I need to feel sad to feel happy. That is my conclusion and sadness is actually one of the things that makes this life worth living, because then I know what happiness feels like.
And I was thinking who has responsibility for it to be a good life? My friends? Are they supposed to make life livable for me, my family? Are everyone in this world just existing to make me happy? No. I have to make my life good. I have to act and bring happiness into my life. I have to risk being sad, in order to become happy. And if you do not risk creating that happiness for yourself, then you will be sad.
Reach out to someone today, someone you have wanted to talk to or to do something for or to get to know better. A friend you haven't talked to in a while, a girl or boy you like, but have been to scared to talk to or a person you know needs some encouragement. Risk to be happy.
Life does go up and down, but mostly it is a good life, risk your happiness.
- VforVegard
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